Thursday, October 22, 2009
There are 3 types of social groups: Alphas, Pre-Alphas, and Betas. I will discuss the difference between these groups and you decide at the end of this article which group you fall into.
Let's start with the Alphas. These are usually known as the dominate person in a group. Alphas, or simply the leaders, tend to have a strong presence within their own group that they are associated with. An Alpha can be a captain of a sports team, a pastor of a church, or a grocery store manager. The common thing everyone has in this group is leadership. Every one of these leaders has others look up to them. They follow their advice. They have a dominating presence and attract others because of this trait. Alpha leaders also never back down from a challenge. They take whatever is in their way and conquer it. It doesn't matter to them if someone is critical to them of their business. They tend to just ignore the disparaging. Their mindset is so strong that it is unbreakable to anyone trying to bring them down a level. These leaders can also radiate confidence over their followers that are the next social group, the pre alphas.
The second type of social group is called a Pre Alpha. These are the people who have the up and coming traits as an Alpha. Pre Alphas are willing to do anything their Alpha Leader tells them to do to become as successful as them. Someday these pre alphas will become an Alpha as long as they continue to follow the footsteps of their leader. They will have to continue to move out of their comfort zone and start implementing their own leadership qualities. This takes time. You can't become and Alpha overnight. To become a leader, you must follow first. Too many times people think they can become a leader without following first. These people are called Beta's, the third type of social groups.
The difference between a pre alpha and a beta is that the pre alpha has the vision and the willingness to get through their adversities. The betas are classified as the "wanna be's" They think that they can surround themselves with an Alpha and "wish" or "hope" that success runs right off them. This will never happen. Wishing to be successful in business is absurd. Beta's think that once they join a business because they know someone else in that business, that the money is going to fall into their lap. They will also never take responsibility for their failures. They will always blame someone else and use excuses. And everything is a "scam" to them. It's a rarity that a Beta will put trust into someone else. They might tell you that they have the belief to be successful, but a lot of times this is a fake belief. They will only tell you what you want to hear.
A lot of times people wonder how to become an Alpha leader. This is very simple. Start surrounding yourself with the people you want to model. Acquire that unbreakable mindset that you need to conquer ANYTHING! Believe in yourself to transform your actions and behaviors into the results you want to see. Bring as much value to others in all aspects of life and watch this world become a better place!
So what category do you fall into?
Until next time,
Monday, October 19, 2009
I'm sure we are all tired of being pitched on "the next best thing" or "my company is better" type of opportunities. But it's also kind of nice to know who the experienced marketers are and which ones are trying to keep their head above water. I did something last week to someone when they tried to pitch me their idea when the only thing I wanted was to be their friend on facebook. I asked this person:
Monday, October 12, 2009
Friday, October 9, 2009
This is my story. Growing up through my highschool years I knew I wanted to do 2 things with my life. I wanted to have a career where I was 1: constantly helping people while I 2: stayed active. No suits and ties for me!! I wasn't going to sit behind a desk, get fat and out of shape. So I became a personal trainer. Definitely could help people and stay active at the same time. At the time, I thought to myself "this is what I am supposed to do." Yes, I enjoyed what I did for about 7 years. But in the last year, the fire started to fade a little. People were given me excuses why they couldn't come this week or even continue training altogether. This was just a small percentage but it still frustrated me to not have the same drive I once had. I decided to move into the industry of entrepreneurship. I knew I could still help people with this and supplement my income. There were 2 MLM opportunities that were presented to me in the same week back in 2004. I couldn't decide on which one I wanted to pursure, so I chose BOTH!! I know, pretty stupid. These companies were very similar. They both had awesome consumable products that everyone could use. But trying to run 2 companies at the same time wasn't working! I was begging people to join my business just so I could make a few bucks. I knew this wasn't the right way to do things but my sponsors told me this way so I listened to them. I was talking to my friends, neighbors and relatives trying to join my company or companies. Pretty soon I realized I was ruining some relationhips that I really cared about. My relationship with my wife was deteriating . We started fighting because we knew we had made a mistake. I was wishing for things to pick up, but they never did. Consequently, I failed. I did these 2 companies for about 2 years and definitlety lost more money than I made. I was so discouraged that I thought I would never "make it" in life to provide for myself and my family. But I stuck with personal training because it's what I knew. Fast-forward to middle of 2009. I was still doing the personal training thing, still going through the motions a little. But I always had faith that I knew something was going to happen to me that would change my life somehow in 2009. That happened on a Monday afternoon in July while I was in the gym working. I found my calling in what I am supposed to do. This was definitely a wake up for me. I found a system that not only was going to financially provide for me and my family, but it helped me grow as a person! I had my thinking ALL Wrong! My mindset was way off. I had NO personal development knowledge so I wasn't treating myself and other people the way I should. I found out I was only helping myself and not others. I learned that giving begins the receiving process. The more I gave, the more I got in return. Sounds very simple, but I didn't get that. I found out that frustration could be explode like a bomb or be used as rocket fuel. I now know to use it as rocket fuel. Yes, I have failed a lot. I now know that failure are lessons in disguise and are essential to my success. I now learn from my failures and pass on the information to others so they don't make the same mistakes that I have made. I wasn't a visionary person. I have never defined the results I wanted to see. I never got out of my comfort zone. I now see the vision. I know where I am going and success is following. I know that there are going to be many obstacles that will be presented in my path. But having faith will get me through the obstacles and not around them. Being successful in the entrepreneurial industry has taught me a lot. One thing I have finally mastered it to deal with change. In order to truly master change, you must surrender to it and manage the unexpected. So I am challenging you to go out and find yourself. Ask yourself what YOU can do to contribute to this wonderful world to make a difference.